Getting Right with Food

 

By John R. Murphy, Founder of Rock House Center

Given the current rate of rampant obesity in this country and the dire predictions of more, unhealthy weight gain has become the center of the national health discussion. Simplistically viewed as a matter of the will, healthcare professionals are stumped as to why weight loss programs do not actually foster sustained weight loss. The answer is that the lie of “comfort food” has millions of people turning to food instead of God for peace. The result is essentially an eating tsunami in this country. The similar self-destructive lie of “soul” food also points to where we went wrong.  The truth is that food is for the body; God feeds the soul.

From the vantage point of my personal weight peak of 300lbs. and having maintained a 60-70 pound weight loss for 25+ years, I understand the struggle. I can summarize what works in one line. When I stopped going to food and began to go to God for my comfort – my peace – my sense of wellbeing, then the weight progressively stayed off.  The internal struggle against the desire to overeat lessened overtime.  I became more aware when I eat beyond the need of my body and more able to stop eating to satisfy the needs of my soul.

At every meal we begin by satisfying the legitimate needs of our body for food, but to the extent that we eat beyond the need of our body we accumulate excess energy reserves in the form of fat. Reserves are fine, but the excess leads to deterioration and even devastation of our health, as increasing fat stores strain the body’s capacity to sustain life.

My breakthrough came on two levels. The first was when I responded to the encouragement of a counselor to forgive the abusers of my past. I had been unwilling to release these people, despite God’s very clear desire to pass on the forgiveness He freely made available to me. I had suffered under bitterness, anger, depression and other negative emotions that I regularly attempted to “manage” through my “faith” in food to escape these emotions.

Then I had to deal with the reality of my obsession with food. Constantly thinking about my next meal meant that food was “driving the boat”. Instead of being obedient to God to forgive, which would have relieved me of negative emotions, I had taken the problem to food so many times it had officially become an idol in my life. Years after the breakthrough with forgiveness, I came under the conviction to repent of the idol of food. Each act of obedience brought a gradual lessening of my desire for food.

Having had the weight off for many years now, it has become progressively natural to maintain the loss. Now I am less likely to roar past the needs of my body at a meal because I am less dependent on food to comfort me or provide me with a sense of wellbeing. Through God’s strength, I have been able to progressively disregard the things of the world to meet the needs of my heart. We are warned in scripture not to allow anything to usurp the place in our hearts that belongs to Him. Said another way, God’s creation sustains the body, while God alone perfectly satisfies the heart of man.

If you feel convicted to honor God’s will in a deeper way right now, praying this prayer can help you get started:

“Heavenly Father, I open my heart for you to show me any place that does not honor you. Lord, I repent of resisting your will and ask that you give me the strength to live out this repentance. Father I also confess that food has become an idol in my life. I proclaim that it never satisfied my desire for peace and that only you can bring peace to my heart. I reject food as a source of comfort and peace and ask you to remove it from the place in my heart intended for you and you alone. Father, please give me the strength to resist the temptation to ever allow food to become an object of my affection and rule over my life. I pray this in the name of Jesus. Amen”

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Discipleship has been crucial since believer #1

The importance and need for effective, life-changing discipleship has been evident from the beginning of Christianity. A life changing discipleship model has been available for about as long – its just not very popular. The New Testament story of Peter being stirred to disciple Simon the sorcerer in Acts 8 is a great example.

Peter showed us that discipleship must be “heart” focused not behavior focused – regardless of how people respond. While the Christian culture has tended toward the behavior modification approach, Peter went straight for heart sin repentance – not behavior sin. Simon demonstrates the struggle for all believers to be transformed when he refused Peter’s guidance by asking that the consequences of his behavior be prayed off  instead.

For more on effective discipleship read “Simon Says No” by clicking on this link

http://rockhousecenter.com/blog/posts/simon-says-no/

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The Pride of Life

The greatest obstacle to our relationship with the Lord is losing our sense of dependency on Him when life is in a good season. Its why historically God’s people thrive under persecution and languish when the pressure is off. Personally I have experienced how my relationship with God deepens with my need for Him and is challenged when worldly success and comfort are more available.

What we are battling is the “pride of life” referenced in 1 John 2:15-17AMP.  It is defined as the “assurance of one’s own resources or the stability of earthly things”. This tendency of our sin nature toward this particular type of pride is an obstacle to staying engaged with God and desiring His will before our own.

God provides the victory by inviting His children to enter His gates with thanksgiving which always trumps the strategy of darkness by bringing glory to the Lord and advancing our relationship with Him. Remember that all the good stuff comes from God, so give Him the credit.

So when you are in a good season or having a good day take that joy to God and thank Him. This will bring a wonderful added dimension to your relationship with the Lord and replace the temptation of pride with a growing desire to move closer to God born of your gratitude. He promises to move closer to you in response.

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Who’s to Blame? – Wrong Question

A segment of the Christian culture seems to be preoccupied with finding fault. Observing this tendency in the context of the book of Job, it appears that a key lesson has been missed. In this book, God established the principle of His Kingdom that calamities such as accidents or natural disasters do not implicate the unwitting victims as the cause. Also established is that trying to convince the victim that their sin is to blame is a misrepresentation of the Kingdom and a mischaracterization of God.

Interestingly, it was Job’s “friends” who worked to convince him that he had done something wrong. At a time when he needed strengthening from his friends, they actually increased his suffering with a wrongful challenge to his understanding of God.  While trying to uncover sin in Job, they sinned against God and gave us a case study of where not to go in our thinking about innocent victims’ suffering from destruction or evil. God did us all a favor by completely condemning their words with the requirement of a sizable sacrifice to atone for this sin.

There is no pass for Christians when it comes to the potential to suffer from events out of our control. In the Garden of Eden through Adam, creation chose evil. God continues to allow this freedom, which is why He is glorified by those who choose Him. Suffering we bring on ourselves from the consequences of our decisions is different. In that case we are called to respond to God’s conviction about the condition of hearts that caused our predicament. In both cases, God offers redemption. Our role in the suffering of others is to love them and encourage them to access healing and strengthening in the truth and love of God.

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Forgive God – Seriously?

When I get a chance to speak about helping people gain emotional strength I commonly joke, “Save yourself $30,000 and years in counseling – forgive your parents.” While that is still broadly true, I have come to realize that our need to forgive God is the more foundational need on the way to emotional healing. While it seems like a ridiculous notion that as mortals we have some basis to take offense from the Creator, it is common. It is also absolutely necessary to forgive God for one to have wellbeing – seriously.

If you were to tell me that humans are rational beings, I would say- “not so fast!”  There is no more logic in blaming God for any aspect of our life than blaming your grocer for the dent in your car made by a runaway grocery basket. God has set up the rules and He has taken the risk of allowing us to have the freedom to break them. God has given His creation the option to reject Him. In our broken world, people choose evil causing innocent people to get hurt. This doesn’t make your suffering His fault.

Everyone we work with wants a better relationship with God. Those who feel the most disconnected from God probably blame Him for some or all of their suffering. It is not rational to hold a grudge against God, but people do it and the relationship suffers, just like it would with anyone else you are mad at. So forget the logic and just forgive God, then ask God to forgive you for blaming Him. He will not withhold His forgiveness. Like making up with a friend, your closeness will be restored – to your great blessing and His glory.

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